With nearly two-thirds of married men and women admitting to affairs, Dr. Holly’s major premise is that the true meaning and motivation for sexual infidelity is not sex. In her influential first book, Sexual Detours: The Startling Truth Behind Love, Lust and Infidelity (St. Martin’s Press, 2001), she describes how an affair is always a “cover story” for something else going on inside the person doing it…a betrayal of the self that overtakes marriage vows and a chemistry of escape that eclipses the promise of sexual lightning. She also provides a fresh look at outmoded, unrealistic notions of romantic love.
Edition 2 is now being updated, including brand new chapters on the Neuroscience of Cheating, Gay Affairs, Intergenerational Relationships, Celebrity Infidelity and the Disease of Addiction.
Dr. Holly is also the go-to psychotherapist for young Hollywood and other celebrities when they need relationship counsel. Her clients include over a dozen A-list stars (no, don’t even think about asking…) whose relationships, and general mental health, are further challenged by the harsh glare of the media spotlight.
Her commentary has appeared in a broad range of media outlets including Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Us Weekly, The Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, Oprah, Strictly Sex with Dr. Drew, FOX News, iVillage and is a regular guest on KPFK public radio in Los Angeles. She most recently made appearances on KNBC as an expert on the Tiger Woods and Jesse James infidelity scandals. She speaks both French and Spanish fluently, a result of her desire to communicate and educate the widest possible audience.